It May be Time for a Little Self Love

We say things to ourselves that we would never consider saying to someone else. You can't do it. You are fat. You are so stupid. When was the last time that you caught yourself doing it? It is highly unlikely that you would criticize a friend, relative, or work associate the way that you do yourself so stop it. It is time to stop the negative messages that you are delivering to yourself. It is time to show yourself just a little bit more love than you currently do. 

If you have been raised in a negative atmosphere or been subjected to a lot of negative feedback then you will have to learn to dismiss those lessons and replace them with a more positive one. An optimistic attitude does not always come naturally and it may be a skill that you will need to learn. The first step in becoming a more positive person is in eliminating the pessimistic energy that is currently surrounding you and replace it with a more hopeful motivational atmosphere instead.

It can seem difficult at first but try to distance yourself from people and situations which cause you to feel badly about yourself. If for some reason you must remain in an atmosphere that is not promoting a happy optimistic air then you will have to block the negative messages headed your direction and replace them with positive ones instead.

It is important to stop the negative messages that you send to yourself and send positive feedback instead. By being encouraging, kind, and understanding of your weaknesses you will be much more likely to succeed in the tasks and goals that you set out for yourself.

Tell yourself how wonderful you are, how kind, how intelligent, and how capable you are. Give yourself positive feedback throughout the day. Encourage yourself to do well and encourage yourself to succeed. Life is a process of constant learning and to succeed we sometimes have to encounter setbacks. We need to be aware of our weaknesses in order to move forward from them. This is how through the process of trial and error we learn to assess our skills, abilities, and liability levels. It is how we grow stronger.

It is important to discover which areas in life we may need to improve our skill levels in. This helps us to know if we need more training in a specific area. This is knowledge which will help us in our quest to accomplish our goals and garner success in the areas we choose to move closer to. It all basically means that it can be good thing for us to sometimes fail. It helps us to empower our self with the skills we need to succeed. Never criticize or beat yourself down because you were not quite ready or able to do all that you had set out for yourself. With continued patience and perseverance you will succeed. 

Be kind and encourage yourself onto a path to eventual success. You are not the only person who requires a little extra positive feedback from your own personal cheering squad. It is quite a normal aspect of human nature to need this. Be as patient and understanding with yourself as you would be to a friend in the same situation. If negative thoughts creep in remove them from your mind and instead give yourself a quick reassuring pat on the back. In the words of Taylor Swift, Shake it Off. Think positive.

Be patient and understanding and encourage yourself just a little bit more than you currently do. Be kind to yourself. Love and respect the person that you are because you truly are amazing. You are unique in all that you think feel and do. There is no one else quite like you.

Life holds many adventures that await us. Experiences and surprises that we cannot even begin to imagine now. Prepare yourself by creating a new attitude to live by. Be motivated, be optimistic, be a positive person.

We are not born knowing everything and we never will know it all. No one does and no one ever will. It takes time and a continued effort at learning to discover even a small portion of what we will eventually come to know. Wisdom comes with learning so be patient with yourself. You will learn much as you travel on this amazing pathway that we call life. Don't expect to be perfect. No one else is so why should you have to be? 

Compliment yourself often. Look in the mirror and practice smiling and complimenting yourself. Learn your best poses and use these to help you to feel more comfortable and attractive when you are out in social situations. Be honest in your assessment and focus on those attributes which compliment you rather.

Tell yourself how handsome, cute, gorgeous, or beautiful you are. Say it often. If you take the time to love and compliment yourself just a little more than you currently do you just might be surprised by how quickly you will change to a more positive you. Out will come a new you who is confident, strong, beautiful, optimistic, and content.

We are human and there is not a one of us who is perfect no matter how hard we try to be. We make mistakes and we sometimes get a little insecure. Sometimes there isn't anyone there to offer the encourage we need so it is at these times when it is important to be able to compliment yourself. Be patient, be understanding, be kind, not only to others but also to yourself. Love yourself. Think positive, be optimistic, and most importantly be the person you were meant to be and that quite simply is, you.

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