Build up that Low Self Esteem

Self esteem grows when our good qualities are praised. Having others compliment and reassure us of our worth builds self respect and gives us new confidence to face the world we live in. Unfortunately our self esteem can also be lowered when we are ridiculed or have aspects of our personality judged as being unimportant.

Developing low self esteem can occur all too easily and negative messaging can plummet us into self doubt and insecurity. During difficult times like this it can be very important that the messages we send to ourself be filled with positive reinforcement. Face it, we have all done it at one time or another as we have stood in front of the mirror and focused on our negative qualities rather than our positive ones. Problems arise when we get in the habit of doing this. The constant feed of negative criticism can effectively brainwash us into believing our self worth is lower than what it actually is.

The messages that others send to us as well as those that we send to ourself do affect our abilities and our capabilities. Low self esteem affects how we interact with the world around us. 

So  cut it out. Train your thoughts to concentrate in a positive direction. If at all possible remove yourself from the influence of negative people, situations, and messaging. The less negativity that you are exposed to then the easier it will be for you to develop a more positive sense of self esteem. Reinforce positive aspects of your personality and appearance as often as you are able to. 

Low self esteem is often a learned behaviour so removing replacing that concept with a more positive image will take some lifestyle modification. Patience and a willingness to change are the key principles to removing the negative aspects in your life and you are the only person who is able to effect this change. 

Slowly move yourself away from situations and people which cause you to feel alone, sad, or bad. Replace any negativity with positive complimentary thoughts. I am kind, I am a good person, I am successful, and I am beautiful are a few sayings which are great for providing the positive re-enforcement needed to replace the other. There are many positive affirmations which you can use to bring courage and strength in the many situations that you encounter throughout the day.

Look in the mirror and focus on the positive aspects of your looks ie; I have the most beautiful eyes, my hair is so soft, I have a nice smile. Now think of the wonderful internal features that you possess: I have a great sense of humour, I am kind, I am intelligent, and I am talented. These affirmations repeated time and again will become ingrained in your thoughts. Give yourself the compliments that we as emotional creatures so need to hear. 

We are human and we need encouragement, compliments, and self-enforcement to make us feel good about ourselves and our accomplishments. If we don’t receive this encouraging feedback we can all too easily develop low self esteem. Fortunately the good news is that this process can be reversed. Flipping to a more optimistic lifestyle can make you a happier more positive person so be nice to yourself. 

Provide yourself with the compliments and positive re-enforcement you need to eliminate any negativity affecting your personal space. Start today. Go over to the mirror and say something nice to the person looking back at you.

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